Wednesday, April 13, 2011

K is for Kierkegaard

Once you label me, you negate me.

Face the facts of being what you are, for that is what changes who you are.


  1. Oh god - I had flashbacks of freshman year in college when you titled this.

    So, if someone labels me as kind, nice or caring it negates me how? I am lesser because of?


  2. This post made me think. I had to look Kierkegaard up on Wikipedia.

  3. SkippyMom: So that's the tricky part. It depends on the person who labeled you as kind, nice or caring. If in that person's mind, "kind, nice, and caring" goes hand-in-hand with "pushover," then yes, you've been negated. And you have no control over the second person's evaluation of those qualities.

    But I think what he was generally getting at was more categorical labels - religious, atheist, woman, man, liberal, conservative, educated, wealthy, poor, needy, privileged, etc. Once someone puts another person in a box of that sort, that is all that person will every be to the labeler. The labeled person almost has to strive against their "type" to prove that they are still a nuanced human being.

    I think the idea is that you want to be "respected" by other people, but not put in a box. If you possess qualities that another person values, then they will be more likely to want to see you for who you are, not the character-tags that have been assigned to you.

  4. What a fabulous quote. And an erudite blog. Wow! So nice to "meet" you.

  5. Thanks for the concentrated dose of philosophy. This brought me back to college, too!

  6. Oh, sorry. I was being rhetorical.


  7. I read in my youth, when she looked create me an idea of life and existence and acknowledge that some sentences were underlined. A nice tribute.

  8. Ooo labels are hard. Hate them unless they sound really good. Even then, I still hate them.

    I'm a new follower and fellow ninja. I read your post from yesterday and I'm very much in the same boat. What agents and what readers like are often very different. I am testing the waters with a story I wrote last year with a teen self-worth theme. I'm using a pen name, mainly because I'm not interested in making a lot of money with it, I just want to get the message out there and available to teen girls. I don't want special recognition for it, but I will plan on being very open about being the actual author as well. I've had a few requests from agents and all rejected because they just "didn't love it." So that tells me there's nothing wrong with it, it's just not for them. And since I believe in the story so much, I'm putting it out there on ebook. My betas have loved it and I think it'd be a shame to hide it away.
    However, I'm still seeking publishing for my other works traditionally. Unless this eBook thing turns out to be so great, well, I may just be my own boss and take it from there. The royalty rate is definitely better. ;)
    Anyway, nice to meet you!

  9. Nice to meet you too, PK :)