Tuesday, March 9, 2010

People hate me because I'm real

In honor of Jake and Vienna's (the lovely lass who came up with the mind-bending quote that is the title of this post) impending ... (sorry, had to start giggling) ... televised wedding (ah, the sanctity of marriage), I would like to share with you three things I hate.

Because, you know.  Nothing says wedding like hatred.

I hate:

1. The belief that because I tell the truth, I am necessarily admirable.

This is based on false logic.  The truth is good, as is the search for truth.  But your opinion is not the truth.

But I'm sharing my honest opinion!  you say.  I'm being real when most people are just being phoneys!

The fact that you are being genuine may be admirable.  But if you are a genuine ass, don't be surprised when people treat you as such.

2. The belief that because I shared my honest opinion, I cannot be criticized.

Look, you shared your opinion.  Now you have to be prepared to back it up.  The fact that I dislike or disagree with your opinion does not make me a bigot or infringe on your First Amendment rights.  (Because as much as I wish otherwise, I am not a government agent.  I digress.)

If you are going to enter the marketplace of ideas, you don't get run right back inside your fortress of solitude as soon as you've shouted your opinion in my face, without giving me time to respond.

3. The belief that all criticism is hateful.

Look.  I may have unnecessarily thick skin when it comes to this final issue.  I wrote for a certain unnamed college newspaper back in the day, and I remember every nasty thing anyone ever said about my writing/my opinion/me.  I was called stupid, bigoted, lame, hypocritical, prejudiced, biased, dishonest, and someone even implied I was into BDSM.  (Don't google that if you don't know what it means.)

Did it hurt my feelings?  Sometimes.  But it made me very aware of the line between criticizing a subject, and criticizing a person.

Calling my ideas stupid is not hateful.  Calling me stupid is.  Only if I actually am stupid will I fail to see the distinction here.


  1. You said this beautifully.

    Now can you please take on the boob[s] that is Kate Gosselin? I would love to see what you have to say about her. LOL

  2. You bigot!

    Just kidding.

    In other news, great post. When we say stuff, we have to be prepared for people to disagree. It's a fact of life. And speaking of mean college newspaper responses, once someone called me their "mortal enemy." Baha! Doesn't that sound like a line from a violent video game right before someone's head gets ripped off? Yikes.

    p.s. I really hate when the First Amendment comes up regarding non-government actors. Arrrgh.

    p.p.s. Vienna is gross.

  3. 1. I don't think there's anything wrong with being into BDSM. hahahaha
    2. I always tell people, "this is my opinion. You can disagree or you can agree. Whatever. Take it as it is." That didn't have much to do with your blog, but it reminded me of it. I don't care if people agree with me! That's why I hate arguing. I don't want to change your opinion. I have my opinion and my own reasons for having that opinion.
    This had NOTHING to do with your post. Whatever.