Is there any better feeling than realizing you're too old for some nonsense?
I've always been a people-pleaser by nature. Not only do I want people to like me, but I REALLY want people in positions of (perceived or real) authority to realize I am following their rules. Because of that, I've always been a good employee. A good volunteer. A good team-player.
I still am that way, deep down, but I think the best part of getting older is realizing who REALLY has the authority. Most of the time, it's actually me.
A few months ago, I agreed to be part of a volunteer organization. I was super excited about the opportunity and the ways that my particular skills could help the organization grow and improve. But over the past few months, it has become increasingly obvious that another person within the organization has a WILDLY different view of how things should be going.
At first I laid out my rationale for what I wanted to do. And then I tried to just do my own thing and not worry about what the other person thought. But it became obvious that neither tactic was getting me anywhere. And all that stuff I was excited to do a few months ago? I didn't want to do any of it if I couldn't support how it was being done.
22 year old me would have stuck it out, desperate to please all the people.
25 year old me would have a little more respect for her own needs and would have tried harder to advocate for alternative options.
But 30 year old me?
She quit. Because life is too short to butt heads with other people. And it feels grand, friends.
Book that is awesome: ALIAS HOOK by Lisa Jensen
Songs that are awesome: "Habits" by Tove Lo and "American Kids" by Kenny Chesney.
I recommend looking into those things.