Once upon a time I wrote that a fundamental level, real feminists support the legal and social equality of men and women -- and this means supporting women who want the freedom to stay at home with their kids as well as the ones who want to work. (Oh, SAHM v. all-other-kinds-of-moms ... will you all ever lay down your arms?)
Anyway, since I'm persnickety (don't you think it would be cuter if it were spelled "persnikity"?), I now have a caveat. Allow me to illustrate ...
Random lady: I know the feminists won't like it, but I love cooking.
Me: Um, feminists can like cooking.
Random lady: Oh, and I love babies. Don't tell the feminists!
Me: What are you talking about? To my knowledge, "the feminists," as you're calling them, have never taken a baby-hating position.
(etc. etc. etc.)
So here's the new caveat.
If you think you know what feminists think, and you're just delighted with yourself for screwing with us ("Squee! The feminists will hate this!"), then fine. I officially no longer give a crap about your legal or social equality. Kthxbye.