Here's a little-known fact about feminists: we can be women, men, young, old, single, married, career gals, students, stay-at-home-moms, stay-at-home-dads, whatever.
Here's a little-known fact about non-feminists: they generally fall into one of two groups. Pseudo-feminists and stay-at-home-fascists. Pseudo-feminists believe they're the true feminists, and that anyone who doesn't agree with them is secretly repressed. Stay-at-home-fascists believe feminism is evil, and anyone who doesn't agree with them is selfish or bad.
In case it isn't abundantly clear, the distinguishing feature is that feminists want people to be equal and do what they want with their lives, and non-feminists want everyone to be the same depending on their personal world view.
When men are misogynists, it usually doesn't bother me. Sure, it's annoying, but they're on the wrong side of history, so whatever. What is truly bothersome are women who are non-feminists. I'm not talking about the pseudo-feminists, because everyone already finds them irritating. I'm talking about the other kind.
You know who you are, 70% of female commenters over on the Blog-That-Shall-Not-Be-Named-At-The-Moment-Because-I'm-Still-Moderately-Irritated who took umbrage over a man criticizing acrylic nails rather than a man criticizing women who want careers. (Seriously ladies, it would have been better to say nothing at all.) All you little Mollies, so eager to get an anonymous blogger (who may or may not be real) to fall in internet love with you that you sold out your self-respect. (And, no, I don't think that's being melodramatic.)
Sure, it's great that you're a stay-at-home-mother. (Or, much like the nineteen-year-old Mormon walking stereotype to which I am referring, an aspiring stay-at-home-mother.) If you would allow others the right to choose to be stay-at-home-mothers, or career mothers, or some combination of the two, then you would be happily in the feminist camp with the rest of us. WE LOVE EVERYONE.
But nope. You find people who don't agree with you "soooo annoying" or "selfish" or (best of all, considering there are just as many stay-in-bed-moms as there are stay-at-home-moms, and some of your kids WOULD be better off in the custody of a daycare) "bad parents."
True feminists will take your side when you exercise your right to choose to be a stay-at-home-mother, but when it comes time for you to return the favor, you non-feminists stab us in the back. I'm sure you're glad that our feminist forebears won you political, legal and economic rights -- so if your plan doesn't work out, you will have some recourse regarding child custody, support and alimony, unlike them -- but you sure are quick to throw mud all over the feminist title. But when you've got rock-solid logic like, "What else are these birthing hips for?" on your side, I guess it's hard to make that choice. Never mind that we also got brains along with these birthing hips.
At the end of the day, you're more dangerous to women than any sexist man could ever be. But that's okay, because when you're ready to admit the error of your ways, we'll be happy to welcome you over to our side.
An unapologetic feminist Mormon, who (usually) likes her career, who is quite happy with her life, who will not quit her job if she happens to get married, and who may or may not stay at home with her kids, but considers that decision nobody's business but her own family's.